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I agree with this sentiment, particularly since once your goal, if it wasn’t completely satisfactory, you
you’ve completed your project, the anxiety you’ve can always start again and work toward a different
built up toward it generally dissipates much more outcome. If you’ve failed, you can track the steps
quickly. Nonetheless, learning to let go of that fear you took until you arrive at another way to solve
starts by recognizing what caused it in the first place. the problem.
I’m sometimes not sure which fear is more Perhaps the best way I can describe prioritizing
prevalent for me: fear of success, or of failure. The my fears in a positive light is to look at it like a
fear of failure I can at least understand because of Toastmasters speech. You have the introduction,
past experiences, but I also know through many which includes the question or topic you want to
positive outcomes that failure is an important share with the audience. Then there’s the body
learning mechanism, while success is the endpoint of the speech with (ideally) three points that you
by which you achieved what you set out to do. want to share with the group. Then finally you
Preparing for success often entails painstaking work have the conclusion and call to action, except that
and preparation for projects or outcomes in which last part is really more up to you rather than your
failure occurs frequently before succeeding at one’s audience. What are the fears you have to face
goals. But in order to get to that point, you have to today? How can you parse them down to be more
face both fears head-on. Sometimes it comes down manageable? And finally, what will happen if you
to a simple question: What is it you truly fear more, follow through on your actions? In practice, no
failing at a project or not seeing the end results fear is so insurmountable as long as we can look it
that could benefit you in a positive way? While on square in the eye and then work our way through
the surface both points sound similar, if you can’t as best we can. Even if you don’t immediately come
envision success for yourself to begin with, or you’re to terms with your fear, you can at least identify it
never satisfied with the results, what does success and know what it represents to you before making
look like for you to begin with? If you’ve reached any decisions on what to do next.
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