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written, “Forgive your enemies. You’ll feel better University. Passionate about math + business + data,
and it’ll drive them crazy.” she’s been fortunate to work these 3 fields, in tandem,
TIP #2 with the Oregon University System, Concordia
University Portland, and now at Nike. Kamili enjoys
BE GENUINE - To kill them with love, our yukking it up with her 3 boys and husband, family &
lack of reaction must be genuine for it to work. friends time, eating chocolate slowly, learning like a
In summary, we have the below equation. sponge, and hanging out in the social capital scene to
Forgiving, but not forgetting coupled with being learn from others and help create value where she can.
genuine increases our ability to absorb hurt She joined New Horizons Toastmasters in 2016. This
without reacting badly to it. year, she is servng as the club secretary.

KILLING PEOPLE WITH LOVE =
FBDF + BEING GENUINE Roseburg Resident Receives

It seems all good things have two sides. DTM award
Medications have benefits…and potential side by Haylie Ellison The News-Review
effects. Coins have two sides: heads…and tails.
Similarly, great approaches have positives… Reprinted with permission
and precautions. Barbara Oakley, a popular
A Roseburg resident, Jim Daniel, received
professor at Oakland University and author of the Distinguished Toastmaster award from the
“Cold Blooded Kindness”, tells us that our ability Wonderful Oregon Wordmasters Toastmasters
to empathize and care for others can be turned club for his achievement in communication and
on its head and lead to…undesirable outcomes. leadership last week at its regular club meeting.
Kindness “can be manipulated & exploited by The DTM award is the highest education
emotional bullies” to us do more harm than good. award a Toastmasters contributor can receive.
Keeping this in mind, THE MESSAGE is this: Less than 1 percent of the 400,000 members
To live & work with problem people, we must hold this title worldwide.
“act rationally using ‘slow’ thinking that departs “Toastmasters is a place where people can
from knee jerk reactions.” For truly good causes, find their voice, learn to communicate and
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let’s Kill Them With Love. become a leader,” said Daniel, the vice president
of public relations at the Roseburg and WOW
Sources, Citations, & References toastmasters clubs.
Daniel completed a High Performance
1. Kahneman, Daniel (2011). Thinking, Fast Leadership project as part of the Distinguished
and Slow. Location: Farrar, Straus and Giroux Toastmaster requirements. The eight-month
2. Machak, Peggy (1998, August 2). How To community service project involved raising
Deal With Problem Personalities. Chicago Tribune. funds and planning the removal of a tree at the
Retrieved from http://articles.chicagotribune. home of Umpqua Community College shooting
com/1998-08-02/features/9808020155_1_ survivor Julie Woodworth. To read the entire
difficult-people-depressed-angry-people article, click here.
3. Oakley, Barbara (2012, February 1). Killing
with Kindness. The Scientist. Retrieved from
http://www.the-scientist.com/?articles.view/
articleNo/31652/title/Killing-with-Kindness/
4. Talley, Kamili (2017, July 8). “Kill Them
with…Love”. New Horizons Toastmasters, Tigard
OR. Competent Communicator Manual: Speech
9, Persuade with Power
Kamili Talley moved to the Pacific Northwest
from Chicago at the turn of the 1990s. She studied
Mathematics, Information Technology, and is making
headway toward an MBA at Western Governors

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